I saw another picture of an abandoned baby today. My initial reaction to this was "Kejinya.." before I paused to ponder. "Kejinya kerajaan kita."
Last week the parliament voted against sex education for schools. And this was after we saw pictures and read news of cases revolving abandoned babies day after day, week after week. When the idea was first introduced, the initial thought that ran through my head was "We don't have sex ed class? Really?"
But then again, I was schooled in private schools. We had student body governments and secret societies. I realised that I was a tad naive to think that all schools are the same but sex ed shouldn't be a priviledge confined to private schools. It should be taught in all schools; sekolah kebangsaan, sekolah jenis, sekolah teknik, sekolah agama and you know, all schools.
I think there is a general misconception about sex ed. A lot of people think sex ed classes are classes where teachers teach their student how to have sex everyweek. If you're on of these people, you are totally wrong.
Miss Gloria was one of my sex ed teachers. She seperated the guys from the girls and held seperate lectures. She entered the classroom smiling like a MILF. "Ooh La La!" was her introduction to this strange and alien lecture. We sniggered.
She taught us about how it is natural to be attracted to the opposite sex and how it also totally normal to think about sex all the time. A good christian kid raised his hand to rebuke "But we can always remove those thoughts by remembering Jesus." Gloria gave him a broad smile and proceeded with a slide show. She showed us the development of the male and female bodies. Some kids gasped. Hypocrits.
Considering her constant MILF-ish smiles and her rather revealing dress, I thought she was going to narrate a sex chapter from a romance novel. To my dissapointment, her lecture was the informative kind. She explained to us the mechanics of sex like penis insertion, orgasm, ejaculation, etc. We've all seen porn videos at some point so her stuff were considered juvenile. But just when I thought I could dismiss the class with a "alah, dah tahu dah.." mental note. She pulled out a condom.
Everyone was giddy. Some even laughed. "This is a condom." She put on gloves, took out the rubber ring and showed it to us like magician revealing the missing card. She told us about safe sex and how we should practice it if we ever have sex. For the first time in my life, I finally understood the gravity of sex. As I looked around, my classmates weren't so excited about sex anymore, as if sex is now suddenly a lethal weapon.
She then told us other aspects of sex like masturbation. "I realise some of you think masturbation is an evil thing, as told by your respective religions but in a scientific point of view, it is a completely healthy activity." That statement pretty much broke the long standing awkwards silence. After that, we were literally gagging her with questions like "How many times can we masturbate a day?" and "When is the perfect time to have sex?"
By the end of the compulsary 1 hour lecture, I didn't think of sex the way I did before. It was no longer a magical and enigmatic subject of interest. I dawned upon me that sex is a serious act with consequences, and not all fun and games as reported by Mr. Google.
My sex ed class experience was a bit liberal to be implemented in all schools but I bet teachers would find techniques most effective to teach their students about sex.
I'm proud to say that since the implementation of sex ed classes, there were no cases of student pregnancies or abortion in my school ever since. Our neighboring public school however had to put up with dozens of young mothers with counselling and parent-teachers interventions. Some students even quit school to become full time mothers to safe themselves from public humiliation. So it's only common sense that we need Sex Ed Classes in Malaysia.