Everyone knows, muslim or non muslim, that pre-marital sex is forbidden. The consequences of doing so may vary; celebrities get more publicity coverage, kampung couples will get shun by the kampung people, city couples will probably boast about it in front of their friends but not to their families la, god forbids!
As a muslim adolescent stepping into the adult world, I am well aware of Islam's jurisdiction on pre-marital sex and so far, I've obeyed it.
"So how can I cope with my inner sexual tension?"
I've asked this qustion to my highschool Ustaz and to my utter annoyance, he ignored it. Since then, those very words spread and I was being known as the Sexual Tension Kid for a while. Blergh! Lesson learnt: no more question related to e-hem. Recently, I mustered enough courage to ask my roommate (whom to my advantage is a pretty religious guy),
"Well, the right thing to do is to sembahyang sunat."
"You're saying when I start fantasizing about boobs and etc I have to perform a sembahyang sunat. If that's the case, if you've told me earlier, I would already become a saint!"
He frowned. "You will get wet dreams jugak... why so frustrated?" He realized something: Afiq hardly sleeps. "Ha ah kan? Macam mana yek? So how do you deal with this... errr... problem?"
"I didn't stutter, did I?"
His eyes widened. I'm not sure which part shocked him. The confession or the content of the confession.
"What, you're saying you don't?"
Good heavens, this guy CAN'T lie.
"Ahah, a hypocrit!" I joked.
But that's not really the point (of him being a hypocrit). The point is this issue is such a taboo that no one is daring enough to explain about the nature of it. Well someone did: my sex ed teacher,but he's christian. Generally, it is rumoured to be Haram but it was decided in accordance to some Mazhabs' views and opinions. Does masturbation affects the well being of people? Scientifically, NO. And I can well remember that there is no such jurisdiction in the Quran or Sunnah about the issue.
Islam is a religion of revelation and reason. To simply put it: if it's not in the Quran or Sunnah, use common sense.
So I dare to conclude that masturbation is an act of relief and should be done only when necessary. Overdoing anything can affect our well being. Islam IS all about moderation. I hate to break it to you but this issue was only clarified to me by a christian missionary. Where were you, ustaz and ulama when we were in great need of your advice?