Valentine's Day is coming up real soon. I know we Malaysians have different views on Valentine's Day.
Conservative muslims opposes the celebration because the day commemorates a Christian saint and encourages dating-touching-kissing-sex-haram!
For chinese Malaysians, it's a 2 in 1. Chinese New Year and Valentine's Day. Mandarin oranges on beds of roses.
For teenagers, it's a trip to the mall to buy cheap and cute presents to their puppylove spouses.
For me, Valentine's Day is meaningless because I'm hopelessly single.
Even when I was in a relationship, I didn't celebrate Valentine's Day because I told my girlfriend that I'm not in love yet. It was a cruel thing to say but it was the truth, I didn't love her. I've never loved any of my ex-girlfriends because if I did, they would still be with me now.
I don't condemn people who celebrate V-Day because they have the right to celebrate anything anytime. Even for muslims, Allah encourage His followers to love each other. What many muslims (especially teenagers) misunderstood is how to love each other. But can we blame them?
If you happen to watch malay dramas on TV, you will notice that love (the romantic kind) only revolves around unmarried folks. Married couples are portrayed as contented, bland and boring or experiencing marital problems. I know that TV won't be much fun if unmarried couples dwells on serious matters and the married ones cover the romantic bits but this state of mind seems to rub off on viewers.
TV9's talkshow Semanis Kurma that features a married couple who talks about relationship issues were frowned upon because there were episodes that showed the speakers playfully chasing each other . Many viewers found the display of playful affection grotesque and disgusting and complained to the network and the media.
Now how strange is that? The same reaction was received in Yasmin Ahmad's Gubrah opening scene and the bilal and wife scenes. Yasmin Ahmad was also quoted saying that it is strange that Malaysian viewers can tolerate spousal violence but can't stand to see them being affectionate to each other.
Eh, where were we?
Oh yeah, V-Day.
Happy Valentines everybody. If you're in love, get married now. It only takes RM90 to get married. You don't need the hantaran, persandingan etc. because those are just Hindu customs passed down to us by default.
We're muslims, no?